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Level Up: Don’t Let Imposter Syndrome Stop You from Getting Your Dream Job
Here’s why you should apply for that “stretch” role.
Have you ever looked at a listing for a job you knew you’d love, but declined to apply because it seemed like a reach?
You’re not alone. A Hewlett-Packard internal report once revealed that women are reluctant to go for a job without meeting 100 percent of the qualifications. Men, on the other hand, apply when they meet only 60 percent.
In other words, you should definitely apply, because you’ll likely be competing against a pool of male candidates who are similarly missing a qualification or two. And just because you don’t meet every single criteria doesn’t mean you can’t do the job. In fact, recent studies suggest you can do the job quite well. Data collected from thousands of performance reviews and published in the Harvard Business Review shows that women outscored men on 17 of 19 leadership capabilities, including”drives for results,” “takes initiative” and “inspires and motivates others.”
Yet when women were asked to assess themselves, they weren’t as generous in their ratings, the researchers discovered.
That tendency to doubt our own abilities is dubbed imposter syndrome, and it’s common in high-achieving professionals, particularly women. About 75 percent of executive women reported having personally experienced imposter syndrome at certain points in their career, according to a KPMG report. People who suffer from imposter syndrome often attribute their success to their connections, overwork or just plain luck. It’s especially acute for women because we don’t see many examples of people who look like us succeeding in our field.
That’s why some diversity and inclusion experts have argued we should stop telling women that they have imposter syndrome. Rather than fixing women, leaders should focus on fixing the systemic bias that prevents women, and particularly women of color, from moving up the ranks.
We couldn’t agree more that companies need to take a hard look at their practices to ensure women and women of color can actually get ahead.
But if you’ve ever suffered from self-doubt, we hope this newsletter helps chip away at the false notion that you’re not good enough. You are. Apply anyway.
The Fix: How to Land a Role That’s a ‘Reach’
Did a dream job catch your eye? Go for it. Even if the role seems above your current pay grade, there’s still a good chance you can land it, especially with the right approach. We asked the experts at Indeed—who know a thing or two about job searches—the best tips to get hired for an “out of reach” position. Here’s what they suggest:
Be honest. It's important to be honest in your application materials and in interviews about your qualifications. If the hiring manager asks you about a skill or knowledge that you don't have, be honest, but emphasize what you do have to offer as an employee and express your interest in acquiring that new skill or knowledge.
Avoid mentioning what's missing. Even though you should be honest, you don't need to point out the skills you don't have that the employer is asking for. By focusing on the qualifications you do have, you show what you are offering rather than focusing on the negative.
Use your network. Your network of professional contacts, friends and family members may be able to help you find a position without needing the full list of qualifications, as a recommendation can get your resume to the hiring manager even if you're not fully qualified.
Reframe your abilities. If a prospective employer asks you about a skill you don't have yet or about training you haven't completed yet, it's helpful to reframe your response by focusing on the positive. You could explain you don't have that skill but that you've learned a similar skill quickly, so the employer can see your abilities.
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Child care workers are quitting the industry for good. Employment in daycare services remains more than 10% below pre-pandemic levels, and LinkedIn data suggests that many of the workers who left moved to other jobs, primarily in education. It’s led to fewer spots available for children. About 460,000 families are struggling to find alternatives, based on Wells Fargo & Co. estimates.
Women are burned out and unable to access flexible work, according to Deloitte’s new Women @ Work 2022 report. Some key insights:
Over half of women say that their stress levels are higher now than they were a year ago, and almost half feel burned out.
Of women who work in a hybrid setting, nearly 60% report being excluded from meetings, decisions or informal interactions.
Just one-third of women (33%) say their employer offers flexible work, and 94% fear that asking for a more flexible work schedule will hurt their chance for a promotion.
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This newsletter was written by Audrey Goodson Kingo, Editor in Chief at Mother Honestly. Please send feedback, ideas and suggestions to me at email@example.com. And if you found this newsletter helpful, share with a friend: